Sorry… Really?

Flowers are always good…

This has to be one of the most misused words in the English language, even being used as shorthand for “I beg your pardon”…as in “I didn’t hear what you said.” If you bump into someone accidentally, then it’s fine to say “Sorry!” and dart off…

I narrowly missed smacking an innocent young man right in the chops the other day. I was walking along, it was a busy afternoon, and I was replaying a particularly irritating conversation in my head – as you do – and when a suitably scathing reply popped into my head I waved my arms in agitation, nearly backhanding this bloke who was walking (perhaps a little too close) beside me.

I am a bit of an arm waver when I talk, and sometimes my over-enthusiastic gestures can be hazardous as I search for the words to physically grab them out of the air. I genuinely meant “Sorry!” as I saw the look of fright on his face as he ducked to avoid being assaulted by this obviously batty middle-aged woman…

But what has happened to the honesty of words… I sometimes feel I should carry placards with emojis on instead of wasting my word budget for the day…. Although I would probably end up beating some poor unfortunate about the head with them… or smashing unwary pigeons out of the air…

However, when I say “sorry” I really, truly mean it, with sincerity and meaning. I have had some real family issues centring around my older son that have left me feeling somewhat trampled, to be honest. He’s been like this for about five or six years now – he has issues that we have tried to help with – but I don’t want to turn this into a Pity Poor Me post.

Suffice it to say, there is fault on both sides, but he seems to think that he can say “Sorry” with no honesty and that the mere saying of the word makes everything all right and everything better. Don’t just SAY “Sorry” BE “Sorry.”

While I’m on the subject…in addition to this the Universe blessed me with a virus that has left me feeling %$*t …so to all my friends and readers I must truly apologise if I haven’t been around to comment, or I have been slow in answering. I will get there and I appreciate each and every one of you who has taken the time to stop for a read, a like or a comment.

Bear with me… xx

 Ting, with my “Sorry Siamese” card, beautifully created by Lady Joyful 

38 thoughts on “Sorry… Really?

  1. too…having a bad time! I know how you feel exactly. Sorry is a word that can be expressed senselessly when there is no genuine “sorry”. For my family, the word “sorry” does not exist in their vocab. At work it is the same with Old Hag. I feel your pain and I wish we both could have a cuppa tea 🍵🍵and scones to console each other. Good morning and I hope you feel better💕💕🐾🐾I know the pain as my head hurts too and if I am stressed further my auto immune disease will take over. Then I might as well hang up my boots😉please take care and big big Garfield hugs💕💕🐾🐾

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    1. I’m having tea now and thinking of you – seriously though, please look after yourself and the sooner you get rid of these toxins the better you will feel. I’m pleased you have good friends there for support 💕💕😺😺🍪🍪🍵🍵💕💕 *great big ordinary hugs as I can’t do Garfield ones*

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  2. This made me chuckle!! “I sometimes feel I should carry placards with emojis on instead of wasting my word budget for the day” – I can almost see this happening, and it’s a scary vision of the future. You’re right – people should BE sorry, but I think often ‘sorry’ is a default word and many of us can say it so regularly that sadly for some it comes without any meaning at the times it should. x

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    1. Well put – thank you! “Default” is precisely the word I wanted…(just waved my cup of tea in agreement and spilt it..) and I just think that people really need to re-connect with genuine emotion to use the words effectively..

      Thank you for reading and commenting 😺x

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  3. Sorry….is a welcome word when it is meant but many times its just something to say when one makes a boo boo…but what can you say…”you look silly with that salad I spilled on you!” “Oops!” Sorry is quick and easy. I don’t likr sorry when the word is suppose to mend all the woub=nds this person has inflicted on others….you’re right…..don’t just SAY sorry, BE sorry.


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  4. I’m a hand talker too Samantha. Always have been and even after trying my hardest to keep my hands either in my pockets or DOWN like a sheep dog … up they pop. Heaven forbid anyone asking me for directions, because if my hands were tied behind my back I’d have to pass! LOL.

    The child who apologises .. without really meaning it? …. I’ve got one of those types too. [sigh] Life blesses us with our children … and I am of the belief that we are meant to learn from them. What I’ve learnt is … that my girls are grown up with children of their own … but I’ve never stopped being a mother. I didn’t realise that I would be ‘on duty’ for the rest of my life. 24 hours a day on duty. I get text messages at 2/3 am in the morning … and my sensible brain tells me to go back to sleep and ignore it until the morning. However the mom side of my brain tells me that it could be serious. Deadly serious. And that I would never forgive myself if I didn’t read the text and act accordingly. So I open the phone. Grab the text and read it.

    “I can’t sleep.”

    That’s all it says. “I can’t sleep”. Well thanks. Now neither can I.

    I know what she wants is for me to make up a story; like I used to do when she was little. I would on the spot make up a story, and get her to close her eyes while I made up a story, and got her involved in the story (mentally) and then left her with the story at some point, so that she could continue the story and kind of ‘story herself’ to sleep.

    Like I said … you NEVER go ‘off duty’. EVER. which for most of the time is such a wonderful feeling. But … it has its moments. (I will sometimes leave my mobile phone at home when I go out … just for the feeling of being on my lunch break. lol).

    Sorry to hear you aren’t in sparkling form at the moment. Please be good to yourself and relax. You run on Duracell batteries normally, and that alone can wear you out and put you in a position of open to bugs and what I call ‘The Tireds’. Find a movie to watch (or two) and maybe a few chocolates and some lemonade, and just enjoy an evening of doing nothing other than re-charging your batteries and being relaxed.

    Be nice to yourself, my beautiful friend.
    Sending love, healing vibes and gentle squidges ~ Cobs. xxx ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Good morning my friend and thank you! I think I am just to say back to normal…whatever that is in my world lol…and yes, you’re right. It doesn’t matter how old they are, you never really “stop” being a mother. I’m discovering that I leave my phone on all the time now Alex is at university…just in case….yo u know..although I haven’t been asked for a story.

      Thanks to the wonder of video calling I was able to diagnose him with a severe case of tonsilitis (it looked like an alien had taken up residence in the back of his throat…vile…) and order him to go to the doctor’s post haste. Then he was able to show me the prescribed antibiotics via video call again to put my mind at rest…honestly!

      Right…I hope you are well and that November is being kind to you – here, my lobelia is still flowering and the lemon tree is growing…have a wonderful day and lots of love to you 🙂 xxx

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  5. I’m sorry to hear you’re not feeling well! (Uh, can’t help but to use the word… 😅) Hope you’ll feel better soon. ❤️

    I’m very much a “sorry” person too, especially of the “Oops, sorry!” variety! I’m also an enthusiastic hand-waver and have bumped into my fair share of things on the table during a conversation. So now I warn people in advance: “I have butter fingers.” 😆

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      1. I’m glad you’re feeling better now! I know the feeling, it sucks to feel unwell. 😅

        Haha, I just imagined a full room of hand-waving people and a whole lot of stuff flying everywhere! Thanks for the interesting image. 😆

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  6. OMCowKittiness…we are truly and sincerely Sorry that we haven’t been around lately, dear Samantha. We could had bring you Healing Pawkisses and now we feel kind of guilty that we weren’t able to visit 😦 Good insight on the sorry thingie…as the song says “Sorry seems to be the hardest word”. Still send Healing Pawkisses and hope you feel better soon ❤ ❤ ❤

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